Mia's First Japanese Bento + Recipes

When my painting projects are black and white, our plates become more colorful.

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I shared Mia’s first-ever bento on Instagram yesterday, and was happy to hear you’d like the recipes too! Obento have a special place with many sweet memories—always accompanied by people I love and specific places other than at tables. Some of those include sitting in trees, on grass, on the ground in a basketball court, a random bench, etc. For me, food is better shared than eaten alone!

I translated my versions here, which come from recipes in Japanese from websites or cookbooks I’ve brought back from Japan over the years. There are also links below to either the original recipe or something similar, in Japanese (which Google translate can hopefully help with), with more photos and some videos for the steps.

Some bento basics:

  • Prep: chop, clean, mix seasonings the day before. Leave rice for the day-of.

  • Colors: at least 3, ideally 5

  • Packing: Cool the food, drain any liquid before adding the dish in, start from the biggest to smallest (rice, protein, veg, filler) and pack it tight

Shimeji Mushroom & Carrot Stir Fry

Adapted from しめじと人参の和え物

  • shimeji or enoki mushroom (1 pack), cut from base, pulled apart

  • carrots (2), julienned

  • mirin, soy sauce 1 T each

  • granulated dashi 1/2 tsp

  • toasted white sesame seeds

  1. Stir fry shimeji and carrots. Add the seasonings, keep mixing until liquid is absorbed.

  2. Serve topped with ground or whole toasted white sesame seeds.

Cucumber Miso

similar: きゅうりの味噌和え

  • Persian cucumbers (2), cut in even thick matchsticks about 1” long

  • white miso 1 T

  • mirin 1 tsp

  1. Use a stick to whack the cucumber (yes, really) and soften. Cut into 1” long, thick matchsticks.

  2. Mix miso and mirin until smooth. Combine with cucumber. Note - will release liquid so drain before adding to bento.

Simmered Kabocha

similar: かぼちゃの煮物

  • kabocha squash (1/4), cut in 1-1.5” equal sized pieces

  • sake, sugar 1 T each

  • water

  • mirin 1.5 T

  • soy sauce 0.5 T

  1. Carefully cut away tiny bits of kabocha skin for even cooking (but don’t remove it all).

  2. Place kabocha skin side down in one even layer in small pot, nestled together but not overlapping.

  3. Add sake, sugar, and water up to 2/3 height of kabocha pieces.

  4. Bring to boil. Then add a drop lid (or a piece of foil and push it down). Simmer until easy to pierce through.

  5. Remove from heat and leave with drop lid/foil lid for 5 minutes.

  6. Store in fridge with juices - flavor gets better over time!

Sweet and Spicy Eggplant

similar: なすの辛子醤油漬け

  • Japanese eggplant (3), or 1 small other variety

  • yellow mustard 1 tsp

  • soy sauce 1 T

  • mirin 2 T

  1. Cut eggplant in 1/4” thin slices. Rinse and dry. Mix mustard, soy, mirin in a bowl until smooth.

  2. Saute in pan until soft. Add mustard, soy, mirin. Stir until liquid is absorbed.

Garlic Mayo Chicken

adapted from ガーリックマヨチキン

  • chicken thigh (3), trimmed and cut in large bite-size pieces

  • mayo 2 T

  • soy sauce 1 tsp

  • garlic, freshly pressed 1 tsp

  • sake, mirin 1 T each

  • salt and white pepper, pinch

  • potato starch 4 T

  • neutral oil 1 T

  1. Combine chicken pieces and seasonings through salt and pepper in ziploc. Refrigerate overnight (or freeze if using days later)

  2. When ready to cook, heat pan, add oil. Add chicken to bowl of potato starch and mix well.

  3. Place each piece on pan without crowding. Flip once browned and crispy on one side. Wipe pan and work in batches if needed.

  4. Place on paper towel to avoid getting soggy after cooking.

Japanese Sweet Potato Rice

similar: さつまいもご飯

  • short/medium grain rice, white or brown 1.5 C

  • Japanese* sweet potato (1 medium)

  • sake 2 T

  • kombu 5 cm

  • salt 1/2 tsp

  • to serve: salt and toasted black sesame seeds

  1. Wash and cut sweet potato in 1/2” cubes (skin on). Soak in water 10 minutes, rinse and dry.

  2. Wash rice, drain water well, add to rice cooker along with water, sake and salt. Place kombu on top. Add sweet potato. Soak 30 minutes before starting rice cooker.

  3. Leave in rice cooker 10 minutes after it’s done. Serve with sprinkles of salt and toasted black sesame seeds.

    *Trader Joe’s carries them now! Different sweet potato variety is ok but won’t have the same texture or nutty flavor.

Colorful Fillers

  • Broccoli, tops only with minimal stem, blanched in salted water

  • Tomatoes (1 or 2 slices or cherry tomatoes)

  • Strawberries (1 or 2)

Online Bento Resources

Just One Cookbook: Searched “Bento” and found tons of ideas and recipes in English. I’ve used her recipes for other dishes and they’ve all turned out well.

Chopstick Chronicles: Great tips on how to make and assemble a bento with pictures

Chopstick Chronicles: Bento Menu - tons of bento recipes in one place

Final Tip

Obento (“bento”) are best eaten with others so if you’re making one, you might as well make two (or more)! Mia’s first obento was special because we got to share it with friends.

The middle two were for her friends who we knew eat a little less, while Mia had an adult-sized portion to match her appetite… just like her mama’s.

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Have you had Japanese obento? I’d love to hear what you thought or if you have any questions about them!

From Japanese Armor to a Camellia Painting

Do you like to see how things are made, even if you never plan to make it? There are endless options on the Food Network, HGTV, or a good percentage of the shows on Netflix…I’m guessing I’m alone wanting to know all the details.

When I see the final result of what someone made, I always wonder what happened before they reach that point. How did they start? What was challenging? How did they overcome?

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My paintings are equal (or more) part research as actual painting time, so in case you’re curious about what goes on behind the scenes before I pick up a paintbrush, I thought I’d share the process here.

There’s always a connection between paintings that leads to the next project.

I recently painted three colorful paintings where I explored the balance of opacity and transparency, detailed lines and washes. This time, I continued that balance in this new painting but with a limited color palette.

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The final painting took about 2.5 hours, but the planning stage took another 2.5 hours too! Getting a stretch that long has to be early morning or late night. In this case, it was a 4:50am start to finish before my daughter woke up. (I felt pretty tired later that day and the next since I’m long past those days when amount of sleep had little effect on me.)

Here’s what the planning looked like:

  • Choose the subject: camellias

  • Choose the overall feel: calm and bright

  • Browse a book that relates: Japanese flower book (see below)

  • Find a starting place and sketch: sketch options

  • Browse color palettes for ideas: Japanese color palette book (see below)

  • Add color swatches into sketchbook: mix colors and write down names

I was looking at this book, an exhibition catalog called Flowers from the Tokyo National Museum - a gift from a professor friend.

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In the book, this Imari ware plate from the Tokyo National Museum captured by eyes and heart:

That was the beginning, then I moved into how to arrange floral patterns and browsed Japanese kimono patterns.

4 is an unlucky number (because “shi” can mean “four” or “death”) so it’s more common to see 5 of something.

I included the five camellias and added one bud because I like that as a reminder of potential.

One of my favorite books, another gift from a dear friend in Japan, is Traditional Japanese Color Palette (available on Amazon).

It’s a rich reference for unique color palettes that I browse often.

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I’ve had bookmarks in for years of my favorites, and this time I kept going back to page 92-93.

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The blue camellias were my focus, but this armor and color palette solidified how to do it. The yellow needed to be lighter, more muted so it wouldn’t compete with the blue.

  • Blue would be the star of the show.

  • Red would be an important but small accent.

  • Yellow would be faint and warm.

Then I’d figure out what to do from there.

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It helps to sketch it out and see the colors. Because I have 5 shades of different dark blues, I had to write down which I was using. You can see two other dark blue shades in the top right that were too dark.

Holbein watercolors have been my go-to since my grandmother gave me hers which I still use, decades after she first bought them. This Cobalt Blue was an addition I purchased last year, still from Holbein. The vibrant colors keep their color even after drying!

After deciding colors, I looked up “kimono patterns” “flower patterns” “camellia patterns” on Google and Pinterest to get an idea of how to simplify the flower form. I based my shape off of a few that I found and repeated it with slight variations in a circular shape.

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  1. I painted each petal and left space between so the white between is just the paper.

  2. Then I added the little red marks in the center of each flower.

  3. Next came the yellow camellia leaves. While the yellow was wet on the paper, I added a dot of rusty red/orange to bleed into the yellow. That orange is a transition between the yellow leaf and red center of the flowers.

  4. It still felt incomplete, so after staring blankly a while, I referred back to my sketchbook where I drew a leaf shape that caught my eye from the Tokyo National Museum book.

  5. I added it in a light aqua green based on the original ceramic plate palette, and some detail based on my recent 3 colorful paintings.


The final result looks like this:

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I’d like to continue this circular composition with flowers and more subjects. There’s more to come! Let me know if you’d like to know more detailed background like this.

Shop Launch: 6 New Prints!

I’m excited to announce that the shop is LIVE and I’m launching with 6 new prints!

6 new pieces I painted this year are now ready to order as giclee prints through Monday, August 17, 2020.

I painted these imagining them living side by side in sets of 3 like this above, but they stand strong by themselves too!

FIRST, the process and behind-the-scenes stories:

The animal paintings started in my sketchbook with just a few sea creatures and moved to the final draft.

I don’t use pencil for underdrawing, but paint directly onto blank paper so I use sticky notes for placement - they have the shape and name of the creatures on them.

JAPANESE BIRDS

These all live in Japan - some native, some not - all recorded on a document if you’d like to know the names!

This project began with my daughter’s (2 years old) interest in birds. We started visiting ducks and geese close to our house. On walks by one neighbor’s home, she would stop, sit, and watch the birds. That was good indication that it was time to get a bird feeder at home.

We got one for finches and one for hummingbirds. Part of daily life now during quarantine is admiring birds, observing the local varieties, and shooing squirrels away from stealing the bird food.

Fun fact: the bottom right bird unintentionally is an exact portrait of my daughter’s expression when she furrows her brows.

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JAPANESE SEA CREATURES

These all live in Japan - some native, some not - all recorded on a document if you’d like to know the names!

If I could pick one animal I’m always drawn to in print or paintings, it would be sea creatures - mostly fish. That includes the Japanese fish scale pattern that I want to add on everything I own.

This painting was the first of my series of 3. I wondered which are around Japan, and sketched how they’d look together. Once I painted a few in my sketchbook, I had to keep going. I could have covered a wall with my list of Japanese sea creatures I wanted to paint, but I narrowed it down to a variety of distinct shapes in an 11x14” painting. I’m sure I’ll revisit painting fish in the future.

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JAPANESE REPTILES & AMPHIBIANS

These all live in Japan - some native, some not - all recorded on a document if you’d like to know the names!

This was the final painting in my series of 3. I’ve been working a project called the 100 Day Project, painting animals that express pandemic-related feelings/experiences, and the first of the 100 was a turtle. A few days later I painted a frog. That piqued my interest to learn more, and it was time to start this piece dedicated to reptiles and amphibians in Japan.

Much like the birds and fish, there were far more than I could possibly include in one painting so I chose a variety that stood out while researching.

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OUT OF WORDS 1, 2, 3

My other series came from thinking about news and the range of responses to the deep issues of prejudice this year that we faced in a more direct way. The responses include learning, thinking, protesting, speaking, conversing, giving, questioning, grieving, dismissing…only to name a few.

This year has been surprising, to say the least. Sometimes when I can’t put my experiences or thoughts into words, I paint. I’m mourning and longing, but always with hope. The flowers as center points of the compositions point to new life and to hope.

1 Camellias (far left): one of the meanings (varies by color) is longing in Japanese “hanakotoba” (“flower words” = language of flowers). I, just like almost everyone else, am longing for peace and justice, even if I don’t immediately know how to respond or where to change.

2 Dahlias (center): one of the meanings (also varies by color) is dignity. In a time I didn’t know what action to take, one thing I knew without a doubt was the dignity of every human being regardless of ability, experience, or appearance.

3 Morning glories (right): one of the meanings is united. There are divisions everywhere we look, and some of those have become more apparent this year. This is another thing I long for, to be united to stand for the God-given dignity of every person.

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OUT OF WORDS 1

If you look closely by the expressions, you’ll see little bodies attached. These are the body language of a variety of responses that I observed and some that I felt, but couldn’t necessarily put into words.

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OUT OF WORDS 2

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OUT OF WORDS 3

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ABOUT THE PRINTS: 

All prints are the highest quality giclee reproductions, professionally printed in the Bay Area. They are on archival, matte, acid-free 340gsm 100% cotton fiber material with a watercolor paper texture. The paper is exactly like the original cold press watercolor paper I painted them on!


Dimensions: 11x14”

The measurements include the white edge so they can be framed with or without a mat/mount. The prints are standard sizes (11x14”) so framing options are plentiful. Feel free to contact me with framing questions, but I included some suggestions at the end. I will post separately with more detail about framing options and ideas! 

Side-by-side with original:

In a previous print release of Japanese tea bowls, I placed the original and the print side-by-side and was astonished at the perfect capture and print quality. It’s hard to tell which is the original painting except for the deckled edge on the original watercolor paper.

FREE SHIPPING (domestic): To celebrate the shop launch, I’m offering free shipping!

The print will be packaged in a clear sleeve and will be sealed, laying flat with hard backing in a rigid mailer to ensure it reaches you in perfect condition. Please contact me for a quote for international shipping!

ORDERING: The SHOP is LIVE and the print orders will close on Monday, August 17, 2020 11:59pm. Once orders are received, they will be shipped within 7-10 days.
*Please contact me if you'd prefer to pick up.


FRAMING TIPS:

Option 1: Professional

Since this is a standard size, you could purchase a pre-made frame and have the framer assemble it. Standard size pre-made frames are significantly less expensive than custom orders.

Framers have specific tools and this option will ensure the framing is done safely, correctly, and with good alignment. You can select different glass options and mat colors (I recommend white that matches the paper white).

Option 2: Semi-DIY with mat

If framing it myself, I would include a mat because I like that space between the painting and the frame.

A good rule of thumb is for the mat to be around 3” wider/taller than the painting. For 11x14” you would need:

  • 1 mat (16x20”) with 11x14” opening

  • 1 acid-free backing board (16x20”)

  • 1 frame (16x20”)

Option 3: Semi-DIY without mat

If space doesn’t allow, I’d go for a simple 11x14” frame. I paint these with this option in mind so there is space between the edge of the painting and the animals. Without a mat, since the frame will be close to the painting, I like the soft look of natural wood close to black ink to keep the painting as the focal point rather than the frame, but it depends on your space!

I call 2 and 3 Semi-DIY because complete DIY would start with cutting the mat yourself using a mat cutter that most don’t have lying around.


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New Prints Available through Tuesday!

Print reproductions of recent work are ready and the pre-orders are in! I'm printing a limited number so email subscribers got the first updates. BUT if you didn’t get a chance to subscribe before the email went out and would still like to order, I’m opening up orders for 2 more days.

ABOUT THE PRINTS: All prints are the highest quality giclee reproductions, professionally printed in the Bay Area. They are on archival, matte, acid-free 340gsm 100% cotton fiber material with a watercolor paper texture. The paper is exactly like the original cold press watercolor paper I painted them on!
The measurements include the white edge so they can be framed with or without a mat/mount. The prints are standard sizes (11x14 or 16x20) so framing options are plentiful. Feel free to contact me with framing questions! 
 

FREE SHIPPING (domestic): The print will be packaged in a cellophane slip for protection. For shipping, the prints will be packaged and sealed between flat multilayered boards to ensure it reaches you in perfect condition. Please contact me for a quote for international shipping!

ORDERING: Here's what I need from you by email or the contact form on the site by end of day Tuesday, October 8!

  • Title of the piece you'd like (or titles)

  • Shipping name & address*

  • Email & phone number for tracking

  • Payment via Venmo @emakubo or Paypal to ema.k.roberson@gmail.com

Once I get this info from you (by 10/8/19), the print will be secured for you and ship out shortly!

*Contact me if you'd prefer to pick up.

I painted these imagining them living side by side in sets of 2-3 like this:
 

JAPANESE FOOD

35 each of some favorite things: Nigiri, Wagashi, and Yasai - all recorded on a document if you’d like to know the names! 11x14”

COLLECTIONS

Left: 70 Japanese traditional tea bowls // Right: Japanese characters starting from the top right, corresponding to animal names. 16x20”

BACKYARD BLOOMS

Each one painted looking at real flowers from my parents’ garden. 16x20”

HYDRANGEA PATTERNS

Visited Japan this year during hydrangea season and these were some of my favorites from a hydrangea festival at a local shrine. 11x14”


Here are the 11 available prints including dimensions, prices, and brief descriptions:

  • Ochawan [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" watercolor painting of 70 types of Japanese tea bowls of various regions.

Ochawan [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" watercolor painting of 70 types of Japanese tea bowls of various regions.

Ochawan [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" watercolor painting of 70 types of Japanese tea bowls of various regions.

  • Nigiri [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of nigiri sushi.

Nigiri [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of nigiri sushi.

Nigiri [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of nigiri sushi.

  • Wagashi [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of traditional Japanese confections.

Wagashi [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of traditional Japanese confections.

Wagashi [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of traditional Japanese confections.

  • Yasai [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of Japanese vegetables.

Yasai [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of Japanese vegetables.

Yasai [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 11x14" watercolor painting of 35 types of Japanese vegetables.

  • Hiragana Animals [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" Japanese sumi ink painting of animals that correspond with Japanese letters (hiragana).

Hiragana Animals [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" Japanese sumi ink painting of animals that correspond with Japanese letters (hiragana).

Hiragana Animals [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" Japanese sumi ink painting of animals that correspond with Japanese letters (hiragana).

  • Hydrangea 1 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

Hydrangea 1 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

Hydrangea 1 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

  • Hydrangea 2 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

Hydrangea 2 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

Hydrangea 2 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

  • Hydrangea 3 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

Hydrangea 3 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

Hydrangea 3 [11x14" - $80] giclee print of an original 12x16" sumi ink and watercolor painting of hydrangeas in late spring in Tokyo.

  • Peony [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting of a backyard peony.

Peony [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting of a backyard peony.

Peony [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting of a backyard peony.

  • Blush Peony [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting of a backyard peony.

Blush Peony [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting of a backyard peony.

Blush Peony [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting of a backyard peony.

  • Rhododendron [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting featuring a front yard peony.

Rhododendron [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting featuring a front yard peony.

Rhododendron [16x20" - $95] giclee print of an original 16x20" sumi ink and watercolor painting featuring a front yard peony.


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Studio Update: 8 Weeks as Mama-Professor-Artist

It has been 8 weeks since we brought baby Mia home from the hospital! The moment she was first placed on my chest has to be one of my top highlights from any experience. Labor is rough, and the 9 months leading up were no cake walk, but that one moment replaced the pain and discomfort. What a miracle!

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Finally getting to hold her was one of the happiest moments of our lives!

The first few weeks were the hardest while my body was healing, emotions were intense, and everything was new, but we had generous support from friends and family. I had heard from other moms not to expect to have a schedule, and I was ok with that for a while as I savored every moment with our baby girl and recognized the time needed for my physical recovery.

I went back to teaching part-time 3 weeks after she was born. It sounds early (and it probably was) but since it’s a college class, I’m on campus for only a couple of hours 2x/week and the rest of the work is at home. I truly care about each student and wanted to stick with them throughout the semester. The longer I was away the harder it would be to catch up so I’m grateful for the smooth and quick transition back in. For a few hours a week I wear regular (non-yoga) pants, blouses, and have a pretty good idea of what I’m doing.

Now at the 8-week mark, my “planner” side is creeping up again and it’s unsettling not knowing what I’ll be able to do any given day. I used to love to block out each day by the half hour and plan every minute from the moment I woke up (with an alarm at the time I planned). It may sound neurotic but time-blocking is a highly effective way of getting things done so I recommend trying it out for time management! Of course for me at this time, it’s not a realistic option.

This photo below is from yesterday. After doing some school emails and reviewing my lecture before class, I squeezed in 20 minutes of painting while she was in the swing next to me (photo below) - half of those 20 minutes she was not happy about it. My mind keeps racing about when is it justified to leave her? If I’m doing something for someone else’s needs then yes, it’s fine. But if I’m working on art, is it selfish? It’s one of the many gray-area, matters of conscience that may vary for each person but for me I know I’m supposed to keep working at it. A friend sent me this great article months ago God Calls Me to Motherhood and Art. How Do I Do Both? about how this artist’s vocation is to do both. It was helpful to read about this artist’s struggle with unscheduled time as a mom and the reminder that though people may consider making art as personal and selfish, she doesn’t ultimately answer to them.

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I imagine this struggle of balance will be ongoing. At some point I hear there are regular schedules with regular naps and bedtimes. We’re not there yet, and surprisingly as much as I like to plan, I really enjoy these newborn weeks of seeing her grow, learn, and develop. The days are unpredictable with 10 to 30-minute mini naps throughout the day some days, and other days she sleeps for hours at a time. Same story for night time - she may wake up only once one night, and then 3 times the next night.

Being her mama brings an unmeasurable amount of joy every single day. I considered “planner” as a core, unchanging part of my personality but letting go of some of that and taking things as they come is necessary in this season. A few weeks ago I even spontaneously went out to lunch with Page (my husband). Spontaneity was unheard of 8 weeks ago. I used to have to plan times to be spontaneous…I think motherhood will be a good change.